1. Ask yourself: will this matter five years from now?
Sometimes, the answer is yes. But sometimes, it’s something that you can easily smooth over. Forget the fight you had with your sister, the invitation that went unanswered, your drama at work.
It is very likely that circumstances will transpire that make the situation that you are currently dwelling on completely irrelevant to your life. The wheel of life will keep spinning, and over time, your positive efforts will likely smooth over the bump in the road you’re currently experiencing.
So, in five years, what you’re upset about right now may not matter. But how does that help you TODAY?
This brings me to point 2.
2. Appreciate the good people and things that are currently in your life.
Take note of the things you love and the things that you have going for you right now. Maybe it’s the beautiful weather and the fact that you can drive with the windows down. It might be a fantastic pet or a roommate who goes out of their way to be kind, a parent who is always there for you, or the really cool person at your job who always makes your life easier.
Or maybe the people in your life are really terrible, but you just read a really great book. (At the top of my list lately? Everyday by David Levithan.)
Is there anything in your life right now that makes you feel like YOU? What is going right?
3. Try something new.
I’m trying to roller skate now. If only you could see me with my roller skates.
I go really slowly, because I don’t want to fall, and I have bright pink knee pads and wrist guards that were designed for little girls. Target doesn’t have any adult knee pads, because apparently adults just don’t learn how to roller skate.
Learning something new — something that you like or something that is a challenge to you — is good, because it takes your attention off of the negative things that you are focusing on. Sure, maybe you suck at the new activity now, but you can see the potential of you getting better. The learning process is a new thing to focus on.
Traveling to new places also counts — just inject some novelty into your life — something to help you see that your situation is changing, and it’s not just going to be more of the same. The situation is in flux, even as you read this.
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