What is it that you want?
This is the question I ask my friend when she tells me about the guy who might send her pictures of his abs late at night, but never comes to visit her (she’s asked). He’s two states away, but there are planes, trains, buses, cars.
Do you want to amass a collection of 233 ab pictures (most of which will disappear anyway, since they’re on Snapchat)? Or do you want someone who will actually be there?
This is the question I ask my client when she works until 7 p.m. for the third night in a row.
Do you want to keep skipping your spin class because you have another e-mail to respond to, or do you want to go home, most nights, at 5? Is there a way to still be great at your job, without sacrificing the things you do for yourself in the process?
This is the question I ask my friend when she tells me that she wants to travel, but her boyfriend is content to spend the weekend sitting on the couch, watching football.
How do you want to spend your life? Can you travel with a friend, or by yourself? Or is it important that you travel with a romantic partner?
You have to take everything into account with these situations.
Right now, my friend is pretty happy just to receive ab pictures. It’s only sometimes that she feels annoyed about it.
My client is really great at her job, and her efforts are being richly rewarded in the financial department. Plus, she hasn’t burnt out — yet.
And my friend who wants to travel? Her boyfriend might be a couch potato, but he treats her so nicely.
There’s a lot to consider.
But I’m asking you to think about the outcome. What is it you want, in the end?
And are the actions that you’re taking on a daily basis consistent with the outcome you want in the long run?
Or are you living a life that will help you reach someone else’s goals, but not your own?
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